Friends...

Wow, what a topic to start another blog!! I am really amazed at what the word does to our day to day life. It brings out a smile on each of our face when we remember the best moments of our life and it is really pleasant that in most of these we find our friends.

Contributing to the much said and followed word in our lives I want to add my thoughts to the topic.

Well, friends are definitely the people I look for when I feel depressed, out, happy, want to have fun and what not. I enjoy having their company in whatever times.

Then there is friendship, the ship which takes you across the biggest of oceans and flies you across biggest and highest of mountains. Friendship also helps you anchor in storms, twisters and what not.

Okay, so enough of praise for both friends and friendship, now to some of the realities. We may want to believe in “LOVE THY NEIGHBOR!!” but that doesn’t always translate into our life. In our everyday life not every person we interact with are not our friends, and not everyone who calls us a friend is our friend.

I have a certain standard and definition of Friendship/Friend, which is:

1. A friend should accept me as I am, and I should accept him/her as such.
2. It is very essential that we respect each other for our beliefs, standards etc.
3. I or he/she should be genuinely interested in others happiness and not jealous.
4. We should be able to share more than good times and also as much as the bad times and this should be true for both the parties.
5. Openness and frankness and trust are three other essential pillars.

Well, these are just the basic standard I have for friends. I don’t expect anything more; neither do I expect anything less.

Sometimes, we expect too much from our so-called friends. Spending only good-times together do not qualify as being friends; neither does using people for their own needs; neither being in the same room or same place does.

Well, I am sometimes surprised, that some so-called friends who believe that I cannot see beyond the façade. I don’t believe in having or continuing relationship for nothing. There should at least be something on stake for me to try to save a one-sided friendship.

So, to say more clearly, I don’t believe in these so-called friendships. All said and done, I do believe a lot in friendship and friends.

Some of my friends are separated over time as well as distances, but when we meet, no matter for what little time and wherever, we enjoy being with each other and share a lot of stuff. I seriously believe that friends are for more than a life time period.

All of my friends can listen to my rantings forever, empathise/sympathise with me on issues without agreeing to them, takes me as I am and is always there for me to fall back on.

There are a select few whom we term as BEST FRIENDS, but the definition of these friends blur over a period of time and all of the other friends start falling in the same category, but then there are certain others who can never recede from the status of being the best of friends.

I have one very very special bestest friends with whom I share my soul; I am very possessive about this friend and that may be one major reason why I married her.

To give a conclusion to this topic is really difficult as friendship goes on and on forever…

P.S. But here is a request for some people reading this, please don’t try to fool people around yourself to believe that you are their friends when you are not, because it hurts more than a heartbreak when people find out the truth. You can always recover from heartbreak but not from a friend’s treachery. After all it is believed that CEASAR died when he saw BRUTUS among his murderers and not because of the stabs from others.